Teenagers today are savvy, but they are also naïve. They need you to open up and discuss the subject of sex with them, no matter how hard it may be.

Having “the sex talk” is not a one-shot deal. In order for you to really have a positive influence, and inform your daughter about sexuality, you need to have an open and on-going dialog with her. If sex, relationships, love and marriage are subjects that are discussed often and openly in your household, the pressure of “the talk” is lessened with every chat, and a trusting relationship is established. When the time comes for a more serious discussion on sexuality, do not lecture your daughter; try to spark a two-way conversation. If your daughter feels as if she is being lectured, she will most likely tune you out. She should feel as if she can come to you for honest answers.

As a mother, you are your daughter’s moral guide. And, it is important to establish a trusting and open relationship with your daughter, even when it comes to sex. Teenagers need an adult that they can trust when they are faced with a difficult situation or when they need answers. Don’t you want to be that person in your daughter’s life?

Studies show that teenagers who have spoken with their parents on the subject of sex and are comfortable approaching the subject with them have sex later and are less likely to become pregnant or contract a STD. If you’ve never opened up to your children before on such subjects, begin now.