He's your good friend. You have known each other for a few years and have shared meals, movies, hobbies and vacations. But for a while, you've felt jealous of his dates. You've been having very strong feelings of attraction and a desire for something more than friendship. Your relationship may have developed into a "friend crush".

Let's take a look at your options. You can:
1. ignore your feelings, keep your boundaries in check and pretend everything is the same.
In order to choose this option, you must be able to deny your feelings so well that even you don't know what they are. You will also have to continue being comfortable on the sidelines while someone else has the relationship with this person that you desire. In return for all this, you will still have your friend.

2. begin to spend less time with your friend while seeking out new friendships to pursue and strengthen.
If you can distance yourself for a while and no longer feel the romantic butterflies, you can always give them a call and may be able to pick up somewhere near where you left off.

3. continue the relationship with your own hidden agendas - a desire for romantic intimacy and the hope that the person will realize that they feel the same way. If they become involved with someone else in the meantime, you can work to sabotage their new relationship. But there are chances that you lost a good friend.

4. have an open and honest discussion with your friend regarding your new feelings for them
This is the choice that seems to be the hardest for folks to make. While this is a very understandable concern, it isn't well thought out.